I’m not opposed to a little romance

After discovering that a madly romantic man can often actually be just mad, I’ve tried to avoid being attracted to romantic gestures. But the thing is I love them. Only if I like the guy of course. If I don’t, a romantic gesture is stalking. Plain and simple (Which kind of sucks really cos sometimes romantic gestures are carried out to see if the person likes you and you could really screw it up!)

So safe to say I’m a sucker for romantic stories- especially when I hear about men doing lovely things for the women in their life.  So when I overhead two elderly men chatting about how regularly they buy flowers for their wives as I passed by the flower shop near my house I was quite taken. One of them said he’s bought his wife a bunch of flowers every week to say he loves her.

I was so taken I tweeted and facebooked it (cos really, that’s what I do ) And then the cynics started to pour in. Some of it was in jest, like the ones who suggested it was covering something up (and to be honest I’ve known of two men who only bought flowers for their wives when they’d cheated on them) and another suggesting it was sexist.

It was the sexist thing that got me thinking. I’m a woman who loves the fact I’m able to work, and support my kids myself. But I am definitely a woman who likes being a woman. I like some of the trappings of old worlde ways of men and women relating. Do we have to throw it all out?

If a guy wants to let me pass first, open a door for me, give me a flower (it’s not the expense, it’s the thought – one flower on a regular basis as opposed to a huge expensive bouquet once a year? I’d prefer it on a smaller scale more often), and do a few boy things round the house (You know, leave their towel on the floor, the toilet roll upside down and… NO- Like fixing stuff and things..) I’m going to be feeling pretty chirper.

And I like doing some of the more tradional roles too. Cooking together is ALOT of fun, but so is preparing a meal for someone as a surrpise, or using my creativity to set a surprise. – though in all honesty any man who gets me lucks out in the cleaning and ironing department.

I think romance is great.It’s not sexist, icky or stupid. It’s cool. And I think a bit of good old fashioned hand holding and teasing doesn’t go amiss either. We need to stop being cynical and start being playful in our dating and relationships. Make it fun. And send me flowers… (Unless I don’t like you as plainly then… well it’s STALKING!)

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