Should you give your dad safe sex advice?

You can really tell you love your dad. i think it’s awesome you want to talk to him out his sexual health- i think as he’s already been honest about his coming out, you can up the game on your side and talk safe sex with him. older guys can often be quite blase about condoms- and the fact you care enough to discuss it rocks really. Just be prepared for alot of shyness and red faces on at least one side! 

Have you thought about calling the New Zealand Aids Foundation to ask if they know where you might get some support? As for your mum- she’s probably eligible for six free sessions of counseling with Relationship Services- which might help get her started. What a big change for you all. 

This sort of change in your life does cause grief. And that’s ok- imagine if he’d left your mum for another woman- you’d be angry then. Just because it’s been a powerful thing for him to publicly admit his sexuality doesn’t mean you and your mum can’t feel pain over this- it’s ok. Just allow you both to work through it. You are both allowed to go through feelings of anger, sadness and loss. That is all normal- and it’s healthy. All relationship breakdowns hurt, and this one is no different in that respect