How to help your husband have an affair

I spoke on TVNZ’s Breakfast on Thursday about the five things that you can do to help your husband have an affair

 

Of course it’s not an inclusive list, and it’s the things you shouldn’t do as hopefully most of us don’t plan to have affairs as a regualr part of the relationship.

There was one thing left offf the list (due to the fact it was a top five) that i wanted to add- that you become a mother figure to them rather than a wife.

Here are the top five as seen on tv

5. Let them have all the boys nights out they like, and don’t expect to have some girls nights out in return. Let them loose every friday night with the boys while you’re home with the kids- it’s prime flirting time for them after a few beers. Oh and don’t bat an eyelid at those three am arrivals. Alternatively nag them and look through their phone. Both are highly effective.

4. Become obsessed with your job, the kids or the house. Let that be all you ever talk about. Forget about developing your own hobbies and interests separate from these core three things.

3. Put him down in public, get together with your friends and talk about how crap your husband is, and generally talk him down. Don’t let him know you appreciate him.

Have an entire wardrobe made of gym gear, three quarter length trousers, tshirts and flat shoes. Oh and cotton granny knickers

1.Stop having sex with them. If you are not in the mood ever, grin and bear it and just do it. It will kick start the desire again. If you refuse to, then accept they are likely to be far more open to temptation. Of course childbirth, chronic illness etc can impact this- but that’s when you talk together and make it about being creative.

Of course some men never would cheat if you did these things or not, and some men (but far fewer than we often think) will cheat no matter what you do, but this list is a good indicator of your relationship together.
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