Comments on: What Are Your Sticking Points?

By: Nicola

Nicola — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 08:16:20 +0000

Oh, and I just thought of one more thing, so now it’s a top 4: they must know the difference between tact and honesty. There are times when you don’t have to say everything you’re thinking, that’s not being dishonest. That would be tact instead

By: Nicola

Nicola — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 08:12:02 +0000

They have to be smart (intelligent, not smart ass) and faithful for sure, those would be the top 2. To round it off, number 3 is they *must* have their own interests, their own things that keep them busy and occupied, things they enjoy on their own or with other friends. All of my ex’s have had the same issue, which is primarily what has come between us, and that is they have become obsessed with being in a relationship and that’s all they wanted to do 24/7 instantly. While flattering, I don’t like to be permanently attached at the hip to someone, especially not overnight! I need time out to do my stuff, or to do nothing at all, which means they have to be able to do the same. It also didn’t help that they all liked me WAY more than I liked them, and when I was younger I often went out with guys I felt sorry for, more than liked. But the same thing happened with the most recent ex and I really thought I was onto a winner there.

By: Frisky Librarian

Frisky Librarian — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:39:10 +0000

Agree totally. Unrealistic expectations usually lead to disappointment, no matter what the field of endeavour.

I have a long list of qualities/attributes that I’d *like* my partner to possess, but they’re mostly superficial (like rock star side burns or toned arms). The only non-negotiables are:

* intelligent (not necessarily university educated)
* kind
* faithful (kinda goes without saying)
* funny
* behaves like a proper grown up when necessary (ie he has most aspects of his life pretty much under control and has some goals and direction).
* socially and environmentally aware