BREAKFAST: Do big age gaps in relationships matter?

Can big gaps cause issues in relationships?
I talked on Breakfast with Paul Henry about the formula you can use to check the age gap you’re considering is manageable, and some of the common problems and issues with big gaps.

BREAKFAST: How to pick up your relationship after an affair

Yesterday I spoke on Breakfast with Paul Henry about how to rebuild a relationship after there has been cheating.
Many people often say that they’d break up with thier partner if they ever found they were cheating, but once in that situation, they find it can be a little more complicated than that. If you are [...]

When things don’t go to plan

One thing I’ve learnt in my time on earth is this: Life doesn’t go to plan.
Well…it can, but only when we plan a life that is completely under our control. It would be a lonely life- one where you could not talk to or interact with another person, and you’d have to make sure [...]

How can I get my boyfriend to appreciate me?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and we have been living together for 2 of those years. I feel like I would do anything for him, from straightening up the house to going out and getting him lunch, and now I’m even moving to another city with him (somewhere I’ve never [...]

How Passionate is Your Marriage?

For many people the two words passion and marriage only exist in that sultry honeymoon period right at the beginning or even worse, it’s nothing more than a fantasy on our screens, played by hollywood beauties with real love lives so pitifully awful we’ll forgive their outstanding figures and the fact they can at least [...]

They are not your problem

One of the most common questions I get asked is how to somehow control the reaction of another person so that they don’t over react, do anything stupid, or act in anyway that is embarrassing. My very simple answer is to stop worrying about it because they are not your problem. If we try to [...]

BOOK REVIEW: What’s keeping you awake at night?

What’s keeping you awake at night? At the moment for me it’s the fact just as I’m starting to sleep a mosquito starts to buzz near my ear. But at other times it’s been financial worries, relationship issues and of course as a mother- my kids. David Bogan has written a great book on the [...]

How to buy your wife a sex toy

Before we go much further I need to make a confession. This blog is called how to buy your wife a sex toy but actually it’s MORE about how to NOT buy your wife a sex toy.
I’m currently giving away a vibrator to someone who is prepared to comment on how they found it, in [...]

GUEST BLOGGER: 7 super-romantic Valentine’s Day gestures that’ll mark you as truly original.

So it’s Valentine’s Day next week and all over Ponsonby—and maybe a couple of other parts of New Zealand, even—Kiwi men will be googling bargain bouquets of roses, best Champagne buys and last-minute motel rooms. Yes, competition is hotting up and it’s time to face up to a sad commercial truth: our long-established, strong-silent-type routine [...]

Should I do Something for Valentines?

One of the things men don’t get about Valentines is that women do like something to happen on it if you’re in a relationship with them. They might say they don’t. But what they are REALLY saying is “Make it heart felt, and fitting to me and something that fits us.” It’s one of those [...]

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