They are not your problem

One of the most common questions I get asked is how to somehow control the reaction of another person so that they don’t over react, do anything stupid, or act in anyway that is embarrassing. My very simple answer is to stop worrying about it because they are not your problem. If we try to [...]

BOOK REVIEW: What’s keeping you awake at night?

What’s keeping you awake at night? At the moment for me it’s the fact just as I’m starting to sleep a mosquito starts to buzz near my ear. But at other times it’s been financial worries, relationship issues and of course as a mother- my kids. David Bogan has written a great book on the [...]

How to buy your wife a sex toy

Before we go much further I need to make a confession. This blog is called how to buy your wife a sex toy but actually it’s MORE about how to NOT buy your wife a sex toy.
I’m currently giving away a vibrator to someone who is prepared to comment on how they found it, in [...]

GUEST BLOGGER: 7 super-romantic Valentine’s Day gestures that’ll mark you as truly original.

So it’s Valentine’s Day next week and all over Ponsonby—and maybe a couple of other parts of New Zealand, even—Kiwi men will be googling bargain bouquets of roses, best Champagne buys and last-minute motel rooms. Yes, competition is hotting up and it’s time to face up to a sad commercial truth: our long-established, strong-silent-type routine [...]

Should I do Something for Valentines?

One of the things men don’t get about Valentines is that women do like something to happen on it if you’re in a relationship with them. They might say they don’t. But what they are REALLY saying is “Make it heart felt, and fitting to me and something that fits us.” It’s one of those [...]

Is there ever an ok form of cheating?

I mentioned on twitter yesterday that one of the most common phrases people use to find my site is “why won’t my wife have sex with me” or some other slight derivative. I wasn’t surprised really- I think men are often perplexed when they find the sex has dropped of and can’t work out what’s [...]

What Are Your Sticking Points?

A couple of months ago I was having a chat to a friend about her single status. She talked to me about how when she was younger (she’s in her thirties) she had an idealised view of what her perfect match would be, and that meant she pretty much discarded a pile of potential long [...]

How to Date Your Ex

I just finished watching The Break Up on TV. I am not even sure why I watched it- it always makes me feel a little blue by the end- it’s such a good example of just how men and women speak completely different languages. Though I object to the idea that Vince Vaughn’s character had [...]

LOVELY BONES: Fighting for Control

I’m going to write about how awesome the whole NZ premiere was in a separate post, but I wanted to talk about the movie itself first.
It took me a year of the book on my shelf before I could drum up the courage to read it. In part because its chief protagonist, shares the same [...]

Just how honest do you want me?

I have been thinking a bit about honesty in relationships. It’s one of the most common things asked for- part of the nice guy/girl package we all seem to want. But being honest about EVERYTHING may not be what we actually want. In the movie the Invention of Lying we get a picture of a [...]

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