Is there ever an ok form of cheating?

I mentioned on twitter yesterday that one of the most common phrases people use to find my site is “why won’t my wife have sex with me” or some other slight derivative. I wasn’t surprised really- I think men are often perplexed when they find the sex has dropped of and can’t work out what’s [...]

ADVICE: Why did my lover lie to me?

I have been having an affair for 3 years and my boyfriend kept pressuring me
to leave my husband for him. Well, I left my husband but found out the guy I
was having the affair with had bought a farm with a girl he had been seeing
on the side. When I confronted him he originally [...]

My wife won’t have sex with me.

 

 
Hi Rachel,
My wife has deprived me of sex for the past five weeks now and she does that every now and then. she is not at all in the mood of having sex and I’m starving. I don’t have money to visit a brothel. could you please let me know if there are some girls [...]

How to help your husband have an affair

I spoke on TVNZ’s Breakfast on Thursday about the five things that you can do to help your husband have an affair
 
Of course it’s not an inclusive list, and it’s the things you shouldn’t do as hopefully most of us don’t plan to have affairs as a regualr part of the relationship.
There was one thing [...]

Can marriage survive infidelity?

The general consensus is if your partner cheats, you leave. However many couples survive the incidence of infidelity and find it makes them a better, stronger couple for it.
In the end whether you stay or go is completely up to you. If your partner has cheated it is often at the end of a long [...]

So, why aren’t we having sex?

Long term relationships often fall into patterns where sex frequency either slows down or grinds to a slow halt. Sometimes it happens after an event such as having a baby, or the loss of a parent or close friend. Situational change can cause both people to feel like the dynamic has changed and there is [...]

Which person will I choose?

Can you love more than one person at the same time?
Of course.
Should you?
well polyamorists would argue yes. But then their lifestyle is about full disclosure, telling each other about the relationships. They live in a relationship that is about the dynamics of everyone involved- not just one person sharing their heart with two people thinking [...]

Rachel Goodchild’s Good Advice: Is my relationship salvagable?

Rachel Goodchild’s Good Advice this morning on Sunrise
For those of you who aren’t on broadband….
Me and my partner have been dating for 4 going onto 5 years now, he was 18 and i was 22 when we first started dating now that he is 21 and i am now 25 we are always in each others faces [...]

Rachel Goodchild’s Good Advice: Lying Exs and Jealous Friends

Rachel Goodchild’s Good Advice on TV3’s Sunrise this morning was about how to cope with being wrongly accused by exs in custody battles, and what to do when your friends start spending time without you?
How do you deal when your ex makes lies up and you have to go to court over it. Now we’ve been in [...]

Leaving on a Jet Plane…..

Three years ago this week I left my marriage. In fact I quietly packed a bag, put the children in the car, and as we drove up the drive I said “How would you guys like to go to auckland today?” 
I knew I wasn’t going back- the marks on my throat were nothing to the [...]

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