Are you grieving?

In my work I often get to observe people in varying stages of their life, just trying to do the ordinary things when they’ve been just met with something extraordinary and terrible- such as the death of a close personal friend or relative, or a big relationship break up.
It’s got to the point where the [...]

BREAKFAST JUNE 10: Rachel Goodchild on Long Distance Relationships

Thinking about one, in one or couldn’t imagine anything worse?
I talked to Paul Henry on TVNZ’s Breakfast about long distance relationships
Alright first things first- I don’t care how gorgeous he is on skype or how amazing his email letters are, unless you’ve met him in person it’s a bad idea to think of someone who [...]

She’s Out of Your League

Have you ever liked someone and thought they were out of your league?
I personally don’t believe someone can be in or out of our league. I do believe that we are all at different points of our journey, and we tend to be attracted to people at the same point of that journey through life, [...]

Maybe you should start taking chances

One of my favourite tracks on the first Glee Album (yes I’m a complete gleek) is Taking Chances which I hadn’t heard before the show aired.
If you are stuck in a rut when it comes to meeting someone and you know you are ready, but you can’t find anyone, then maybe you need to start [...]

BOOK REVIEW: Do You Know Why You’re Single?

I’m annoyingly fussy when it comes to dating books (hell is that why I’M single??! ) and while I get a lot of the to check out, most of the time I feel they don’t fit what what I would say to my clients, or to people on this website. So often it’s all [...]

BOOK REVIEW: Getting Over Mr Right

by Chrissie Manby
I was really looking forward to getting this book-the premise is perfect; a chick lit for today, with a girl getting over being dumped on Facebook by her boyfriend of three years.
It was a fun read, but I felt it just didn’t connect with me enough the way some chick lit books do. [...]

So I’m looking for a 43 year old dim witted Aucklander…

According to a recent study, the happiest and longest marriages are made when three things align:
1. the male is five years older than the female
2. the woman is 27% more intelligent than the male
3. you have the same cultural background.
Guess that’s going to narrow the field a little right? Perhaps I should put it on [...]

Breakfast: Online Dating Tips

I sometimes forget that this website started from my book Eighty Eight Dates. It all seems such a long time ago that I whipped myself into a dating frenzy to research internet dating.
I spoke about this topic on Breakfast with Paul Henry this morning (was lovely to see him again!). It was a short segment [...]

Need to vent? Just Don’t Press Send!

I spend a large amount of time writing. It’s my job after all. It hasn’t always been that way however. When I was at school my teachers despaired at the lack of effort I put into anything written. The problem wasn’t the writing- it was that I hadn’t found anything I was passionate about to [...]

Go on- tell someone you love them

I used to have major avoidance issues. I’d avoid doing anything that didn’t feel good. Like taxes (I’m getting better) and paying bills (again, major improvements) and folding the washing (well…. two out of three ain’t bad right?)
I definitely avoided confrontation. And it was so long between moments of being honest I actually forgot what [...]

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