Go on- tell someone you love them

I used to have major avoidance issues. I’d avoid doing anything that didn’t feel good. Like taxes (I’m getting better) and paying bills (again, major improvements) and folding the washing (well…. two out of three ain’t bad right?)
I definitely avoided confrontation. And it was so long between moments of being honest I actually forgot what [...]

Look at all the lonely people…

I found an article on the TVNZ website today saying that loneliness is contagious. I found it so interesting because the truth of loneliness isn’t about whether you’ve got a great social life, you’re being invited to parties, have friends and fun everywhere, or you’re stuck at home every night with only the tv and [...]

Be part of my new book

Ok I need your help people.
I’ve got two new books coming out next year- and they are going to be written by both well known and well loved New Zealanders (you fit at least into the second category in case you were wondering!)
The two books are called…
“The Best Advice My Mother Ever Gave Me”
and
“The Best [...]

GIVEAWAY: New books- pick the one you want

I’ve got some more books to giveaway and we’ll follow the same format as last time- you get to choose the one you want, tell me why you want it (just add a comment after this post!), and at the close I’ll choose my favourite answer for each and post them out
So really [...]

What to do when gossip hits home?

 
A few weeks ago a couple of close friends starting acting a bit weird around me. I wasn’t too sure what had happened- in fact I was busy enough to not notice at first. But there was a reserved feeling when I talked to them, and at first I thought I’d done something to offend [...]

Why do we get angry?

It can be an explosive and dangerous emotion, and for that reason we often work hard to not let it show. Anger however is a completely natural and normal reaction. Learning to manage our anger is one of the hardest skills especially if we haven’t had clear help doing so as a child.
Many people (particularly [...]

Sleeping with the Enemy

We’ve all been there. You see this guy in a bar, think he looks great, chat to him, can’t believe how much you’ve got in common, then your bestie comes in a squeals with delight- cos you’ve managed to gel with their new man. And while they start pda-ing all over the place, sure you’re [...]

Thursdays at Rachels- expanding your social circle

At the beginning of the year I made ONE New Year’s Resolution- I was going to start a regular dinner party gig once a fortnight and invite people I knew but didn’t know each other.
It’s May and I’ve run it twice- and am now getting finally into the swing of things. Really finances have held me back- [...]

Dumped for a Hot Date!

I went to a friend’s house for a great meal last night. LOVED it. She’s gone to a lot of trouble over the roast lamb, the vegetables, the chocolate mousse, and to make things better, for this gluten free chick, it was all gluten free!
The occasion? I was the stand in. She had invited a [...]

“Use the force Luke” doesn’t work on yourself

But oh how I wish it did!
I have alot of friends ask me advice on dating issues. Does that girl like me? Where shall we go on a date? Can you read this email and see what it REALLY says?
And to be honest that sort of question is where I’m in my element. I’ve talked [...]

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