Go on- tell someone you love them

I used to have major avoidance issues. I’d avoid doing anything that didn’t feel good. Like taxes (I’m getting better) and paying bills (again, major improvements) and folding the washing (well…. two out of three ain’t bad right?)
I definitely avoided confrontation. And it was so long between moments of being honest I actually forgot what [...]

What Are Your Sticking Points?

A couple of months ago I was having a chat to a friend about her single status. She talked to me about how when she was younger (she’s in her thirties) she had an idealised view of what her perfect match would be, and that meant she pretty much discarded a pile of potential long [...]

Is the pill impairing your judgement?

There is an article on stuff today that says the contraceptive pill can make women choose more effeminate men
To be honest it’s not news to me. I’m not on the pill- in part because it means all guys will wear a condom if you tell them that (funny how a baby is far more terrifying [...]

FIRST DAY ON BREAKFAST! : Why women should be selfish

Oh it was fun on breakfast this morning! We talked about why women need to be more selfish
HERE IS WHAT I SAID ON BREAKFAST (Well what I would have said if Paul Henry hadn’t sidetracked me ! )
What? We are meant to be more selfish? That hardly sounds like a good thing for [...]

Do you have it in you to be a cougar?

Th word cougar gets bandied about so much. And to be honest I kind of hate it. I’ve dated up to ten years on either side of me – and don’t really think dating a guy in his twenties automatically makes you a cougar if the guy you dated before that was in his forties. [...]

SEPTEMBER MAKEOVER OFFER: For the curvy chicks!

Every month askrachel.co.nz is offering one lucky person a makeover courtesy of us, and a few other people who know how important it is to feel and look good.
 
DO YOU NEED A MAKEOVER?
This is September’s Offer
*An outfit styled and given to you by The Carpenter’s Daughter (size 12-24
*Flights to Auckland and back (if out of [...]

Jump his bones or wait it out?

I posed an interesting question on twitterverse the other day- what would YOU do if someone you liked broke up with their boyfriend or girlfriend? How long would you wait before you made any kind of move?
The overall answer was this: if you think he or she is hot, and worth a shot, jump but [...]

Why Skinny White Guys Join Rock Bands

It has been many years since I last rocked up to perform on stage on front of a live audience, but a recent outing to see a mate of mine play a gig downtown reminded me exactly why I was once motivated to do so myself (and why I might take it up again).
Late [...]

Guest Blogger: Will Conley on how to talk to women

I met Will on twitter- we’ve never physically met but I enjoy his humour and take on things. He’s kindly offered to make some dating videos for me sharing some if his viewpoints- and this is his first one.
I love it- there is a certain amount of truth in the fact that you always get what [...]

Dating Tip: Meet me halfway

One of the biggest frustrations for both men and women is the person we are dating just doesn’t think or act the way we want them to.
Women want men to magically know what they are thinking. And we’d quite like men to be thinking about us a bit- cos generally, if we like you, we [...]

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