Breakfast: Online Dating Tips

I sometimes forget that this website started from my book Eighty Eight Dates. It all seems such a long time ago that I whipped myself into a dating frenzy to research internet dating.
I spoke about this topic on Breakfast with Paul Henry this morning (was lovely to see him again!). It was a short segment [...]

GIVEAWAY: Win a copy of my book Mountain Men

I know I’m best known for Eighty Eight Dates- but I wrote a couple of others before that.
Mountain Men is the most beautiful book I’d ever written and I loved researching it- talking to strong, taciturn and lovely old men from New Zealand’s High Country. I have such a respect for the men in this [...]

Why emails, texting and electronic communication isn’t

I wrote a book on internet dating- which of course is all about internet communication. I love social media, and facebook chat. my life is ruled by emails- if it’s not written down to me I often forget about it. I email myself to make sure things get done.
My life is run using written electronic [...]

Restarting the game plan

Three and a half years ago I knew I needed to make a change about my weight. I had lost twenty or so kilos, then got pregnant and piled it all back on. But Emily was eight weeks old, and it was time to say goodbye to all that extra weight.
Twenty kilos in, my marriage [...]

Social Faux Pas 101

I’ve got a wee love affair of business cards. I love collecting them and I love giving them out. I have two- one that is pretty with Eighty Eight Dates all over it, and another, more serious one for when a more professional and less “I talk about sex and relationships” is needed.
I met with [...]

Assumption is the mother of all f$#@ ups

 why it’s best to leave your phone on sometimes… 
This is a six minute video- and a link someone else sent me on twitter- but it just shows why it is really NOT a good idea (And oh I have done it myself though NOT to this extreme) of assuming that someone not answering you is [...]

Just please yourself

One of the easiest ways to explore your own sexuality is to learn how to pleasure yourself. Men tend to do this more readily than woman, but often only focus on a quick stimulation, and ejaculation, mainly to relieve pressure, quickly done in the shower, or bathroom without their partner knowing. 
One of the important things [...]

How women stuff up their dating life

Us women are great at telling men exactly how they muck up their relationships and dating. I’ve let loose on the way men wear shabby clothes or take me out to crap places before (not cheap places, just crappy ones- a takeaway on a beach is good, Mc Donalds at the restaurant…well NO) 
But little is [...]

Let’s just be friends

A couple of my friends have sent me similar types of links over the last few days- articles, studies and reflections on hanging out with guys you like, who never quite seem to make the move. You think they are into you, you hang out all the time, but nothing ever happens. Then one day [...]

Why Kiwi Blokes Aren’t Getting it Right

One of the most common complaints I get from women is that kiwi males are missing the mark. That they just don’t pursue enough, aren’t putting enough effort in. To be honest, especially after dating a PILE of men during the research of Eighty Eight Dates, and then dating just because I liked it, I [...]

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