She’s Out of Your League

Have you ever liked someone and thought they were out of your league?
I personally don’t believe someone can be in or out of our league. I do believe that we are all at different points of our journey, and we tend to be attracted to people at the same point of that journey through life, [...]

Breakfast: Online Dating Tips

I sometimes forget that this website started from my book Eighty Eight Dates. It all seems such a long time ago that I whipped myself into a dating frenzy to research internet dating.
I spoke about this topic on Breakfast with Paul Henry this morning (was lovely to see him again!). It was a short segment [...]

Go on- tell someone you love them

I used to have major avoidance issues. I’d avoid doing anything that didn’t feel good. Like taxes (I’m getting better) and paying bills (again, major improvements) and folding the washing (well…. two out of three ain’t bad right?)
I definitely avoided confrontation. And it was so long between moments of being honest I actually forgot what [...]

They are not your problem

One of the most common questions I get asked is how to somehow control the reaction of another person so that they don’t over react, do anything stupid, or act in anyway that is embarrassing. My very simple answer is to stop worrying about it because they are not your problem. If we try to [...]

How much of your love life is recorded online?

I got sent this awesome video- it’s a four minute long video of a whole relationship documented in photos- some candid, some posed. (And it’s not TRUE but it IS awesome!)

Thrush from Gabriel Bisset-Smith on Vimeo.
I love it, not just because it’s clever, but because it reminds me how much of our life is documented [...]

GUEST BLOGGER: 7 super-romantic Valentine’s Day gestures that’ll mark you as truly original.

So it’s Valentine’s Day next week and all over Ponsonby—and maybe a couple of other parts of New Zealand, even—Kiwi men will be googling bargain bouquets of roses, best Champagne buys and last-minute motel rooms. Yes, competition is hotting up and it’s time to face up to a sad commercial truth: our long-established, strong-silent-type routine [...]

What Are Your Sticking Points?

A couple of months ago I was having a chat to a friend about her single status. She talked to me about how when she was younger (she’s in her thirties) she had an idealised view of what her perfect match would be, and that meant she pretty much discarded a pile of potential long [...]

TVNZ BREAKFAST 26th November: Why You Need To Make Your Children Work

I talked on Breakfast this morning about how important it is for parents to teach children how to help around the house
You can click on the link above to watch me speak with Paul Henry about this, or read the information below:
For many of us we focus on giving our children the childhood we never [...]

BREAKFAST Nov 17th: Dating tips for men

Lots of magazines talk about what women need to do, but what about dating tips for men?
Today I spoke on Breakfast with Paul Henry- and you can watch me in action here.
For a more full version of what we spoke about read on…
 Kiwi men, charming and lovely as you are, are sometimes not the best [...]

ADVICE: Why did my lover lie to me?

I have been having an affair for 3 years and my boyfriend kept pressuring me
to leave my husband for him. Well, I left my husband but found out the guy I
was having the affair with had bought a farm with a girl he had been seeing
on the side. When I confronted him he originally [...]

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