So I’m looking for a 43 year old dim witted Aucklander…

According to a recent study, the happiest and longest marriages are made when three things align:
1. the male is five years older than the female
2. the woman is 27% more intelligent than the male
3. you have the same cultural background.
Guess that’s going to narrow the field a little right? Perhaps I should put it on [...]

They are not your problem

One of the most common questions I get asked is how to somehow control the reaction of another person so that they don’t over react, do anything stupid, or act in anyway that is embarrassing. My very simple answer is to stop worrying about it because they are not your problem. If we try to [...]

BOOK REVIEW: What’s keeping you awake at night?

What’s keeping you awake at night? At the moment for me it’s the fact just as I’m starting to sleep a mosquito starts to buzz near my ear. But at other times it’s been financial worries, relationship issues and of course as a mother- my kids. David Bogan has written a great book on the [...]

How to buy your wife a sex toy

Before we go much further I need to make a confession. This blog is called how to buy your wife a sex toy but actually it’s MORE about how to NOT buy your wife a sex toy.
I’m currently giving away a vibrator to someone who is prepared to comment on how they found it, in [...]

GUEST BLOGGER: 7 super-romantic Valentine’s Day gestures that’ll mark you as truly original.

So it’s Valentine’s Day next week and all over Ponsonby—and maybe a couple of other parts of New Zealand, even—Kiwi men will be googling bargain bouquets of roses, best Champagne buys and last-minute motel rooms. Yes, competition is hotting up and it’s time to face up to a sad commercial truth: our long-established, strong-silent-type routine [...]

Is there ever an ok form of cheating?

I mentioned on twitter yesterday that one of the most common phrases people use to find my site is “why won’t my wife have sex with me” or some other slight derivative. I wasn’t surprised really- I think men are often perplexed when they find the sex has dropped of and can’t work out what’s [...]

What Are Your Sticking Points?

A couple of months ago I was having a chat to a friend about her single status. She talked to me about how when she was younger (she’s in her thirties) she had an idealised view of what her perfect match would be, and that meant she pretty much discarded a pile of potential long [...]

Have an Annoying Mother In Law?

If you have an annoying mother in law, you might be able to help someone who emailed me recently. I’ve got some advice for her- but this is such a real problem- and I thought I might open it up for discussion.
How would YOU handle this situation?
I’ve always managed to get on okay with my [...]

How do you bring up using a sex toy with your partner?

The first road test with D-vice is about to be sent out, with the LAYA vibrator going to a couple who have never used a sex toy before.
It can be a difficult thing to suggest the use of a sex toy -especially if you’ve been in a relationship for a long period of time together and [...]

My wife won’t have sex with me.

 

 
Hi Rachel,
My wife has deprived me of sex for the past five weeks now and she does that every now and then. she is not at all in the mood of having sex and I’m starving. I don’t have money to visit a brothel. could you please let me know if there are some girls [...]

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