How do I leave my violent partner?

Im 21 and I’m stuck in a relationship that I’m too weak to leave. I have
been with my partner for two years now, this has been the first serious
relationship i’ve been in and I’m in far too deep. We argue almost four
times a week with him saying really horrible things [...]

Stop hitting me!

Above is a shocking link that Keira Knightly has made on domestic violence.
I watched this with really mixed feelings. I am honestly not sure- no matter how shocking this was, at how effective this sort of advertising is for people actually caught in this situation.
I remember watching a similar Women’s Refuge advertisement about five years [...]

Leaving on a Jet Plane…..

Three years ago this week I left my marriage. In fact I quietly packed a bag, put the children in the car, and as we drove up the drive I said “How would you guys like to go to auckland today?” 
I knew I wasn’t going back- the marks on my throat were nothing to the [...]

Why isn’t my woman more like a pornstar?

Seems the posts that have provoked the most “behind the scenes” commentary so far are the ones that touch on oral sex or porn.I get alot of guys asking me questions about why their partners won’t do all the stuff those lovely girls in the porn movies do.
As I’ve wondered what to write in repsonse, [...]

Might as well face it- You’re addicted to Love

I wrote yesterday about learning to understand that love unrequited doesn’t really happen for me anymore- it’s a sense that if you know your own worth, and what is lovely about you, you automatically won’t go for people who can’t see that same sort of thing in you.
That doesn’t mean I don’t get a touch [...]

Having sex just the way you like it.

If everything else is going well in your relationship, but you feel your needs aren’t being met in the bedroom, perhaps it’s time for a little chat with your partner. Of course the idea of talking over the issues of this topic can feel a little self conscious and personal, leaving often easier just to [...]

Ten ways to tell you’re a stalker

There is now such a fine line between stalking and seeking someone out. It’s a bit of a shame in some ways that the threat of stalker has taken out so much fun out of the tracking someone down and asking them out process.
I love the fact some men and women don’t care- they just [...]

Stewing over the near misses

I live amongst a rabbit warren of intersections and stop signs. In the last two days I’ve had two near misses where a car has run a stop sign, braking only just in time before we’ve had an impact. A good friend was badly injured at one of these crossings last year so I never zip along that [...]

Casual Sex 101: Good One Night Stand Guidelines

You know I’ve really thought about whether I should even write this post. It’s problematic on SO many levels. There’s the mother factor. She doesn’t read my blog but you know if she does read any post, it’s going to be THIS one. I’ve mentioned to three or four other dating bloggers who’ve all said [...]

I’m the guest dating blooger on Digital Life at Orcon

And here is my first post at Digital Life
It is about internet dating (since I talk dating- and they are an internet company!)
It’s still weird seeing your name in print or on the web. Even after all these years. I wonder if that ever goes away?

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